PARIS – MILAN: the slow-fast train

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Jan 092017
 
PARIS - MILAN: the slow-fast train

I go to Italy by train every couple of years, as one of my best friends lives in Liguria. It’s a great train destination, as there are so many options, most of them scenic. The fastest way by train is with the Paris – Venice Sleeper: this tips you out at Milan about 5am, which […]

Elderwoman: book by Marian van Eyk McCain

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Jan 012017
 
Elderwoman: book by Marian van Eyk McCain

Is elderhood different for men and women? Yes and no! The question of gender differences in elderhood has been a big one for me as I approach leading a mixed workshop on this theme for the first time, at Findhorn February 23 – March 1. I’ve discussed the gender question with women and men elders […]

Face-offs with cows, and flying chickens. Lessons in community from Ethiopian roads

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Jan 012017
 
Face-offs with cows, and flying chickens. Lessons in community from Ethiopian roads

It happens so often, you suspect the animals must enjoy it: why else do they spread the full width of the tarmac, instead of using the broad gravel verges?  The cows are the worst: they glower balefully as if they might charge, and only turn aside from our approaching vehicle at the very last minute.  […]

Why African Fact is Happier Than Fiction

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Jan 012017
 
Why African Fact is Happier Than Fiction

Recently I’ve been reading The Granta Book of the African Short Story.  When I travel, I like to read something connected with my destination, so this book went with me on a recent trip to Kenya to see the work of Farm Africa: a UK Charity who enable peasant farms in East Africa to adapt […]

Song for Marion: this film has powerful lessons for older men

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Jan 012017
 
Song for Marion: this film has powerful lessons for older men

This is an intense, moving, ultimately hopeful film, and it’s a superb example of the bogs of anger and self-isolation that many older men get stuck in. The film’s focus is an elderly couple, played to perfection by Vanessa Redgrave and Terence Stamp.  One of the delights of this movie for us oldies is to […]

Life Threatening Crises for Friends

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Jan 012017
 
Life Threatening Crises for Friends

In the past few months, the wives of two close friends have had late diagnoses of advanced cancer which could be fatal.  The husband of another friend has had a stroke.  At the Summer School I go to each year, two couples from last year are now singles, having lost their spouse to cancer. These […]

Life lessons from the movies: Hope Springs

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Jan 012017
 
Life lessons from the movies: Hope Springs

Is changing a relationship like changing a lightbulb? You may recall the old joke about how many therapists it takes to change a lightbulb.  The answer is one: but the lightbulb really has to want to change.  It may take one therapist or less to change a sterile long-term relationship, but both partners have to […]

Exploring Elderhood: Creating the map

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Jan 012017
 

The idea of elderhood may sound good, but where do we find the role models, the route to this destination?  These days, we need to create our own map.  The place of elders in tribal society offers some useful ideas: but our own times are so different that we can’t start from here.  People just […]

Exploring elderhood at Findhorn Foundation

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Jan 012017
 
Exploring elderhood at Findhorn Foundation

Rich, expansive, poignant, nurturing and more… In February 2013, I brought a vision to fruition: co-leading a week-long programme at Findhorn Foundation on elderhood.  My co-facilitator Ineke and I, had high hopes for the week, which were more than fulfilled: a tribute to the quality of our participants, to the magic of this spiritual community, […]

Depression, and getting over it

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Jan 012017
 
Depression, and getting over it

Depression is one of the biggest problems for men beyond 50.  We all feel low sometimes, but depression is long-term – I’ve met many mature men who have been depressed for years, often on antidepressants continually, and are resigned to living in semi-gloom indefinitely. How would you know if you’re depressed?  Typical symptoms are self-dislike, […]