Elderwoman: book by Marian van Eyk McCain

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Jan 012017
 
Elderwoman: book by Marian van Eyk McCain

Is elderhood different for men and women? Yes and no! The question of gender differences in elderhood has been a big one for me as I approach leading a mixed workshop on this theme for the first time, at Findhorn February 23 – March 1. I’ve discussed the gender question with women and men elders […]

Life Threatening Crises for Friends

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Jan 012017
 
Life Threatening Crises for Friends

In the past few months, the wives of two close friends have had late diagnoses of advanced cancer which could be fatal.  The husband of another friend has had a stroke.  At the Summer School I go to each year, two couples from last year are now singles, having lost their spouse to cancer. These […]

Life lessons from the movies: Hope Springs

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Jan 012017
 
Life lessons from the movies: Hope Springs

Is changing a relationship like changing a lightbulb? You may recall the old joke about how many therapists it takes to change a lightbulb.  The answer is one: but the lightbulb really has to want to change.  It may take one therapist or less to change a sterile long-term relationship, but both partners have to […]

Exploring Elderhood: Creating the map

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Jan 012017
 

The idea of elderhood may sound good, but where do we find the role models, the route to this destination?  These days, we need to create our own map.  The place of elders in tribal society offers some useful ideas: but our own times are so different that we can’t start from here.  People just […]

Exploring elderhood at Findhorn Foundation

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Jan 012017
 
Exploring elderhood at Findhorn Foundation

Rich, expansive, poignant, nurturing and more… In February 2013, I brought a vision to fruition: co-leading a week-long programme at Findhorn Foundation on elderhood.  My co-facilitator Ineke and I, had high hopes for the week, which were more than fulfilled: a tribute to the quality of our participants, to the magic of this spiritual community, […]

Amour: French film about love in old age

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Jan 012017
 
Amour: French film about love in old age

A picture of joy and pain: in equal measure? Stunning is a word much over-used, especially by estate agents, but stunned is the best way to sum up my feelings at the end of this film.  I have never seen a whole audience leave a cinema in such deep silence. The gist of the plot […]

Nov 192013
 
How NOT to have a midlife crisis

 Therapy: the book by David Lodge The ‘hero’ of this book is Tubby Passmore, 58: balding, bulging, and thoroughly lost.  Although he’s outwardly successful – well-off, modestly well-known as scriptwriter for a top sitcom, with a steady if dull marriage, Tubby is depressed and confused. Through the book, we piece together his life story, and […]

Oct 212013
 
A Realistic and Positive Book on Ageing

Also helpful for the ‘young-old’ The warmth of the heart prevents your body from rusting: Marie de Hennezel This is the best book on ageing generally that I have read: well-informed, realistic, as well as warm-hearted and inspiring.  Marie is one of the leading French experts on ageing: she has been studying this field for […]